How do we move from being parents who encourage perfectionism to parents who perfect encouragement?


Are you a perfectionist? Do you have a child who is a perfectionist? Being a perfectionist is ROUGH.  (I speak from experience.) NO ONE is perfect. It’s exhausting.  To a child who finds personal value from doing something well, it can be a train wreck of emotion.

Sometimes our children are perfectionists because they get it from us. Sometimes we’ve created it in them because we’ve only praised them when they’ve done something well. How often do you hear a parent say something like, “You’re just not great at basketball.  I don’t think it’s your thing.”?  We tend to tell our children only what they are good at.  And often we don’t help them understand their weaknesses.

This month we want to help you navigate what it looks like to help your child learn from failure and understand that perfectionism isn’t the goal, excellence is.


Partnering with you,

Parenting Class Video


Please let me know if you have any questions, comments, suggestions or problems with these resources!

p.s. Watch for more help in part 2!




All of these resources are available because of our partnership with These are for families connected with the fifty-six Student Ministry and Mount Pleasant Christian Church, Greenwood, Indiana. If you or your church is interested in this strategy, please partner with

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